• FartsWithAnAccent@fedia.io
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    My dad just beat my ass, no wrasslin. Eventually I got big though and he became a lot more hesitant to get physical. Learning Muay Thai probably helped too lol.

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      As a girl I had a similar experience with my mom, sole parent. Except I never got big at all. I got fit and learned how to use my tiny size to do what I wanted.

      She used to beat my ass for being autdhd, when only the adhd part was known, and then I hit middle school and took up wrestling (on the boys teams! Fuck authority! Fuck norms! Girl power! Holy shit was that a struggle for several years that involved lawsuits… but she finally loved and supported me for being the almost son she never had… I’m actually still a woman tho, I just liked it :D) and suddenly my problems weren’t problems for her anymore…? Magical how that works. My golden child older sister stopped being a raging cuntbag at me, too, the first time I picked her up and slammed her onto her bed to shut her up when she threatened me.

      No no that family dynamic doesn’t leave lasting personality issues, not at all :)

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          Thanks! On the plus side in my time I was able to redirect young women away from my coach and the super hostile sexist environment he cultivated… helping out with jr high wrestling club was encouraged, so I talked to a lot of parents, and told them about my experience at that school, with that coach, and recommended looking for another for their upcoming female wrestlers.

          I hope they had an easier time :) I genuinely enjoyed doing it, against mixed sex opponents. Male and female bodies have different strategies, and keeping them separated is stupid imho.

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            21 hours ago

            At such a young age you might not have realized, but most families do not have school choice. Were you aware of that?

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              17 isn’t that young, I was emancipated and thus a legal adult at the time (for convenience and work)… but yes I was fully aware of how the districts around me worked, because I used the choice program myself multiple times.

              That didn’t stop me from warning the up-and-coming families, some years before it would have become an issue, so they could figure out what to do about it for themselves. None of my business beyond raising the warning call.