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Cake day: July 12th, 2024

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  • 17 isn’t that young, I was emancipated and thus a legal adult at the time (for convenience and work)… but yes I was fully aware of how the districts around me worked, because I used the choice program myself multiple times.

    That didn’t stop me from warning the up-and-coming families, some years before it would have become an issue, so they could figure out what to do about it for themselves. None of my business beyond raising the warning call.



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    Thanks! On the plus side in my time I was able to redirect young women away from my coach and the super hostile sexist environment he cultivated… helping out with jr high wrestling club was encouraged, so I talked to a lot of parents, and told them about my experience at that school, with that coach, and recommended looking for another for their upcoming female wrestlers.

    I hope they had an easier time :) I genuinely enjoyed doing it, against mixed sex opponents. Male and female bodies have different strategies, and keeping them separated is stupid imho.


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    As a girl I had a similar experience with my mom, sole parent. Except I never got big at all. I got fit and learned how to use my tiny size to do what I wanted.

    She used to beat my ass for being autdhd, when only the adhd part was known, and then I hit middle school and took up wrestling (on the boys teams! Fuck authority! Fuck norms! Girl power! Holy shit was that a struggle for several years that involved lawsuits… but she finally loved and supported me for being the almost son she never had… I’m actually still a woman tho, I just liked it :D) and suddenly my problems weren’t problems for her anymore…? Magical how that works. My golden child older sister stopped being a raging cuntbag at me, too, the first time I picked her up and slammed her onto her bed to shut her up when she threatened me.

    No no that family dynamic doesn’t leave lasting personality issues, not at all :)




  • Tangent, but I wish we could normalize pass-around bakeware/dishes (with goodies). Nobody in my experience gives away stuff on dishes they want to keep anyway, without explicitly saying they want the thing back.

    I like to go to thrift shops/garage sales and get cheap mismatched dishes to make/give away baked goods in/on so nobody has to think about returning it. They cost about the same thrifted as sturdy “disposables” these days. If they want to return it, that’s fine, but most people forget and that’s also fine, because then later they give me something in the same cheap dish, and that’s lovely. Or they use it to give food to others and that’s also lovely. Or they use it themselves and that’s great too!

    This works wonderfully for holidays or other potlucks when there are a lot of dishes going around, and it works extra well for shows of support after a loss, when the grief makes memory difficult to maintain.





  • That assumes this isn’t a converted house or other building, where consistency is very difficult due to the original construction. There are tons of those and they tend to be shitty cheap places attractive to first-time renters and students.

    My friends lived in the ground floor apartment of a converted house, and the washer was above the hallway between one of the bedrooms and the bathroom, so I could totally see that.



  • Sure. It’s unpaid to attract people who don’t need money to survive, and bar everyone else. And it gives them some modicum of direct control and power to change things as they see fit.

    Effectively, it’s a wealth filter. It works with internships, why not this ideologically-motivated nonsense?

    Besides, rich people who don’t need income don’t know how to do actual work, so 80 hour weeks is probably code for “play a lot of golf and take 4 hour lunches, work drunk, whatever, just have fun with it man!”