Why did my distant cousin, who is O- rape me in my sleep to make my babies, if my husband and I would have eventually conceived? And why was my family okay with that happening to me, unless it was about blood type compatibility?
Have you talked to somebody you trust about this, maybe a therapist? Sounds like you have some trauma to work through.
What I’d like to do is have my children take the ancestry dna test and show that they link to that distant cousin. Then I would like to have everyone attend therapy. Yes, I have been through therapy. My parents are in denial and insist that my children were made by my husband. He has no interest in them, hasn’t spoken to them since 2017, never asked for visitation, and even produced baby pictures from a family photo album to show everyone how different he looked when compared to my kids as toddlers. They still insist that he is their dad. I didn’t bother to ask him for child support in our divorce documents. Their biological dad owes us all a new life. He owes me missed moments of motherhood with my kids because I had to work so many hours to provide for my children, with just my own income. My husband refused to contribute to my children. If it was an expense for the kids, and it wasn’t some present he felt he had to buy for a holiday amongst family, then he refused to pay. I don’t blame him. He isn’t related to my children at all!
Have you talked to somebody you trust about this, maybe a therapist? Sounds like you have some trauma to work through.
It can get better, I promise.
What I’d like to do is have my children take the ancestry dna test and show that they link to that distant cousin. Then I would like to have everyone attend therapy. Yes, I have been through therapy. My parents are in denial and insist that my children were made by my husband. He has no interest in them, hasn’t spoken to them since 2017, never asked for visitation, and even produced baby pictures from a family photo album to show everyone how different he looked when compared to my kids as toddlers. They still insist that he is their dad. I didn’t bother to ask him for child support in our divorce documents. Their biological dad owes us all a new life. He owes me missed moments of motherhood with my kids because I had to work so many hours to provide for my children, with just my own income. My husband refused to contribute to my children. If it was an expense for the kids, and it wasn’t some present he felt he had to buy for a holiday amongst family, then he refused to pay. I don’t blame him. He isn’t related to my children at all!