As if interviewers would read the resume before or even be involved in the shortlisting of candidates…

Also included: XMPP account on the same address, but it would be nice if they would keep their Ejabberd a bit more up to date.

It does work on the latest version of the default interface. There was a fix recently.

can leave it anywhere and it won’t get stolen

Sadly a £350 bike will also get stolen. Happend to me twice for bikes worth even less 😢

Same to you. Claiming to have autism or complex trauma is not a get-out-of-jail-free card to be rude to others and accusing them of -isms out of the blue.

And no, you were not quoting me. “Controlling yourself” is not the same as “fearing to be not in control”, because the latter extends to your surrounding and nearly always involves others around you wether you intend it or not. And besides that, I stand by my comment that people with trauma have a responsibility to not inflict it onwards onto others, as many sadly do.

Uff, you have a lot to work through it seems. Please don’t go around projecting wild assumptions on others and twist their words into the complete opposite 🙄

Come on, what is the purpose of lashing out like that? I said nothing of the sort, no need to insult me 🤨

And anyway, my comment was mostly about not potentially inflicting causes of your trauma on others. Because that is what usually happen when people fear not being in control… they try to control others once they have the means to do so.

plus a lot of complex trauma about my body and life being controlled by others.

That is often the source of the fear I mentioned. I know it is not easy to overcome, but it is worth it.

I would start with questioning if that feeling is really individuality and self-expression, or rather a fear of not being in control. All too often it is the latter, especially with artists and people of similar “individualistic” mindsets (and “nest builders”). This very common toxic mindset is also problematic inside communities when a sub-group bands together to push their specific ideas and expects others to submitt to them.

Yes in a local database, not a distributed one.

The main difference is that XMPP (like most other federated systems) is based on passing messages, so if a new server joins a chat, it gets send messages from that point onwards.

In Matrix that is different. When a new server joins a chat it exchanges the entire database for that chat, and for DAG consistency reasons this means all the metadata since the chat was first created, often years ago.

Matrix is not really a chat system, but rather a distributed database that pretends to be a chat system. As a result all servers participating in a room get a full copy of the room metadata all the way back to when the room was created, which is a serious privacy issue.

This is not a general problem of federated systems though, and XMPP for example basically only shares the metadata that other participating servers strictly need to function.

No, it still requires a phone number, but you can hide your phone numbers from other users now.

https://slidge.im/ with an XMPP server.

This is odd because I know a few mainland Chinese people that use XMPP without problems (and afaik without a VPN).

Sounds like your server got blocked for another reason?

Well, instead of leaking metadata to Signal, AWS, Cloudflare, Google/Apple and your ISP, like Signal does, RCS only leaks it to your ISP /s

You can easily redirect xmpp to port 443 which is not blocked by most firewalls. If you have problems with firewalls or public wifis your xmpp server is misconfigured.

The actual military grade (xmpp based) messengers implement security lables, meaning messages are tagged with the required security clearance and if you invite random people to a chat they can’t see the messages.

Most of human history…hmm checks notes… since the invention of capitalism about 400 years ago, yes.

Even serfs under feudal lords had significantly more free time and while basic child labor was common, it was mostly in family run farms.

The server can swap to a modified JS that exfiltrates the e2ee key and thus allows the server owner to decrypt the messages, or in more advanced encryption schemes add additional keys without you knowing and achieve the same thing.

Yes you can juryrig something like that with cookies, but it is highly fragile and browser based e2ee is basically a scam anyways as the server serving the website can always swap out the javascript that decrypts the messages.