Hey thanks! I like that phrasing better. Less perfunctory, more sincere.

And then what happened?
That must be really hard for you.
Wow. You don’t deserve that.
How do you feel about it now?
Ugh. That sounds awful.
You’re handling this better than I would.
How do you even respond to that?
Tell me about it.
What can I do to help?
You’ve got this, but I’m here.

Edit: I wrote the above to illustrate how many options there are in the parlance of active listening. The formula is simple: imagine how they feel and join their side or, if you can’t yet imagine, ask questions until you can. That’s it.

I’ve wondered the same. Pretty sure they just lean on the ISP equipment offerings and outsource the rest to the cloud. Critically, I envision plug and play users who don’t give a shit about security or privacy, and that simplifies a lot.

Honestly if you take that setup from the ISP (which I think is often free and now usually includes a docsis 3.x with at least one repeater, installed) then just bump the default encryption and add a VPN, I wouldn’t say it’s a bad way to go at all, mainly because when there’s any issue it’s on the ISP to fix it.

It won’t be bleeding edge and you won’t be able to do any directed networking fanciness without your own gear, but the not my problem perk is nothing to sneeze at.

And yeah mesh is a headache. It’s all wired backhaul (sfp+ and copper) but nodes regularly fall out of sync and the mesh doesn’t heal properly. Main reason I kept coming back was the benefit of co-channel stacking, which makes your signal footprint small but really deep so neighboring routers move over.

Well since the ruler’s out, 133 here. It’s hell.

Explanation: mostly younger roommates. Majority of bandwidth goes to just 21 personal machines, 4 MLO devices in particular, 1 of which uploads a fuck ton of cam stuff.

That said, most connections are idle. In particular there’s a chunky subnet of energy monitors with a low hum of usage.

I say “hell” because it takes 7 mesh nodes to reach everyone (while playing nice re: antenna strength in a congested building), maintaining security and privacy for everyone requires planning, and the second anything goes wrong everyone loses their minds.

Well take me to church

OK, I read the various finger wagger quotes. I’ll concede one point: the shareholders (capital) bear greater responsibility. Yes, he was “just doing his job.” But it’s dirty work, this job.

It’s true that the primary utility of this type of CEO to a shareholder is liability encapsulation, but if someone hires you to do their dirty work, and you take their money, it doesn’t matter that you’re just doing your job.

In short, any henchman should know what he’s signing up for. Those exorbitant salaries are hazard pay, make no mistake. If you take these dirty jobs, and prolong the suffering of millions, I think it’s reasonable to expect that you’ll need to watch your back. Forever.

Thought it was an ad for a new sandwich at a deli.

Thanks.

Every revolution has a few.

1. (-) luck, (+) empathy
2. (-) luck, (-) empathy
3. (+) luck, (-) empathy
4. Fayettistes

In case anyone needs to hear it: big red flag for lots of reasons. Don’t put yourself through a relationship like that. Find someone who wants you for you.

May not apply here, but something I learned helping people move is that many sofas have frame gaps stuff can disappear into, which isn’t obvious until someone is hauling it and you hear things tumbling around inside.

To check, you can usually just reach underneath and tap the batting fabric in a few places to see if anything is suspended on top of it in the subframe cavity.

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I just read conditions with scare quotes — pretty sure not anti-gender-affirming, if you’re being serious.

Punk/goth/emo were still distinct. Alt was just an umbrella term. Pretty sure that’s how Alt-TikTok works too.

The main difference I think is that “alt” used to have more of an othering flavor because it was coded for outsiders, maybe grownups. So if you ever used it to describe yourself, air quotes were implied, like “skater boy.”

Gen z seems more comfortable using the umbrella term. Perhaps less concerned with getting tagged for posing. Shrug

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There’s greater room for platonic friendships in relationships with lots of trust.

Edit: I’m in a poly relationship which, similarly, only works with lots of trust. But a side effect of that trust is that platonic friendships with sexually attractive people are, seriously, NBD.

Jealousy is the love killer.

Ah I see, like grocers requiring that employees solicit donations at every checkout to reduce global food insecurity (and the grocer’s tax burden), it’s only technically optional.

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