I think most people are like this but neurodivergent people have trouble coming to terms with breaking the rules. As in they see an incongruity between the stated rule and the way everyone behaves. What OP is talking about is textbook neurodivergence behavior though I’m sure other people experience this to some degree.
And yet TP Link is consistently a very well rated brand both for software and for hardware. I’m currently looking for a WiFi 6e/7 router and most sources agree they’re the best. Both Amazon reviews and trusted sources like rtings say this.
Basically I hear your point but the US does need to have a good reason to ban these because otherwise they seem to just be taking away good hardware from people